The holiday season can often magnify feelings of grief for those dealing with loss. Katherine Atkins, clinical training director, and Sonya Lorelle, associate program director at the Family Institute at Northwestern University, have explored this topic extensively. Their work aims to equip professional counselors with the tools needed to guide clients through various forms of grief.

Atkins and Lorelle's research identified four primary themes that describe how grief manifests, which they term "spaces of grief." This concept emphasizes how a loss can significantly alter an individual's life journey.

Both professors are available for interviews to discuss lesser-known forms of grief and provide advice on handling grief during the holidays. They can be contacted via email at katherine.atkins@northwestern.edu and sonya.lorelle@northwestern.edu.

In a recent Q&A session, Atkins highlighted that mainstream media often references Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s stages of grief, which were initially intended for those in the process of dying. She pointed out that these stages might lead to unrealistic expectations about grief being a linear process with a definitive end.

Lorelle explained their research resulted in a new model focusing on spaces rather than stages of grief. She emphasized the importance of self-compassion and understanding individual needs during grieving periods.

Atkins offered advice for navigating holiday-related grief: recognize its potential intensification during this time and understand that all reactions are part of one's journey. "Grief is complex," she said, noting cultural pressures to return to normalcy after loss. Acknowledging the significance of one's loss is crucial.

Lorelle added that while grief is universal, responses vary. It is essential to consider personal needs regarding space and time. Some may benefit from creating an exit plan or setting time boundaries; others might find solace in leaning on support systems or establishing new traditions to honor absent loved ones.